When we want to feel better, what we want and what is are misaligned. Emotional responses and their intensity are directly tied to how closely reality aligns with our expectations.

Wanting to ‘feel better’ is more than reasonable but is ineffective in the long-term. Better feelings, or feeling better, is a byproduct of aligning our thoughts with reality.

The value of emotions is that they provide a lens through which we can examine our thinking. With Intentional Review, feelings can be understood, acknowledged, and leveraged. Addressing our emotions by focusing on the underlying thinking and stories is the most effective way to influence our feelings.

Are you wanting to feel better or will thinking differently be better?