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My Preference is to Judge

I judge.

I don’t want to pretend I don’t.

That would be another kind of performance.

The goal to be neutral, non-judgmental, peaceful.

In the enlightened state.

Living above it all.

My version of that of peace was spiritual make believe.

If judging is so bad why do I do it?

How does it serve me?

It’s a function.

Of awareness.

Of attention.

Of intention.

My mistake isn’t judging.

My mistake is a lack of awareness to what I am judging.

Deluding myself that I’ve risen above my preferences.

As if that’s what makes me safe.

Or good.

Or true.

I don’t need to pretend I’m over it.

I need to notice when I’m in it.

That’s the work.

To name it.

To hold it.

To ask:

What is this judgment protecting?

What do I think it says about me?

What story does it help me avoid?

I don’t want to judge less.

I want to judge with awareness.

It’s not a matter of choice.

It’s a matter of awareness.

To understand it.

That’s how it stops running me.

That’s how my preferences become points of reference.

To judge.