It’s easy to see

where we’re different.

Different backgrounds.

Different beliefs.

Different behaviors.

I use those variables.

To justify the disconnect.

I call it discernment.

It’s comparison.

I didn’t realize

I was measuring selectively.

Fixating on what separates us.

Ignoring what connects.

Like giving myself

more or less credit.

My struggle looks

different than theirs.

It looks better.

It looks worse.

Stuck in the loop of insight

based on exception.

Another form

of my self-deception.

Selective measurement

framed as insight.

What helps me right-size

is recalculating:

Equal doesn’t mean the same.

It means the score is.

When I include

the full measure

the effort, the intention,

the weight of the story,

we look more alike

than we don’t.

The details are different.

The rest is the same.

The truth isn’t

in what sets us apart.

It’s in what brings us

back together.