My tissue paper thinking suggested that my taking was selfish. That my giving was noble. From that perception, I gave. Time. Energy. Attention. …
My Give on Taking
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My Take on Giving
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When I’m in survival, everything flips. I take before I give. I perform before I participate. I ask what I can get before I ask what I can offer. It …
What I’m Hoping to See
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Someone repeats something I said. Not word for word. In their voice. Applied to their context. And … it works. It works for them. They don’t ask for …
Demanding Offers
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A demand is easy. It costs nothing to say, “This is what I want.” A proposal takes thought. Takes effort. Takes courage. A demand is built on a …
Bots Talking to Bots
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I wasn’t talking to you. I was talking to a version of you. You weren’t talking to me. You were talking to the version of me I’ve outsourced. …
Effort Without Focus
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I’ve put in the effort. Stayed consistent. Checked the boxes. Stayed busy. I’ve earned the ache. What did I accomplish? Sometimes I confuse movement …
Gratitude as a Verb
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It’s easy to identify gratitude as a feeling. Something I should feel more of. Something to get better at feeling. Then I started noticing how often I …
Survival Systems Deserve Respect
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I wanted to develop beyond my survival mode. As if I was supposed to be past it. Above it. Healed enough not to need it. Survival mode isn’t shameful. …
Sustraint
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My feelings arrive too fast for me to understand. Too deep, to explain. Too loud, to ignore. Too sharp, to respond. I would, I will, I do react to …
Routine Ritual
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My days are mostly routine. Conditioning. Default. Instinct. Mostly. Routines get me through the basics. Wake up. Brush my teeth. Check my phone. …
Hollowed Space
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You share your ache. I match it. I know that feeling. I’ve been there too. I’m in it right now. That wasn’t connection. That was a reflex. To not feel …
It’s Not About You
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It’s not you. It’s me. It’s not about you. It’s about me. You share something tender. Something that aches. Hurt. Shame. Fear. Disappointment. …