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Most of what I’ve called a giftwasn’t a gift.It was a trade.Unspoken bartering.A favor in disguise.Or a play to my own ego.I’ll give you my …

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I am responsible for my actions.Not the outcomes.Outcomes are above my pay grade.I can control the effort.Not the result.I can choose the behavior.Not …

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I’ve learned I can’t think my way intoa better way of acting.That’s the loop of overinflating my thoughts.Details that keep me stuck.My experience has …

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Learning is a relationship with the unknown.Something I haven’t met yet.Something unfamiliar.A belief is different.A belief is like an old …

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Every game has rules.Every life too.Rules set the boundaries.What counts.What doesn’t.What’s in.What’s out.Actions fill the space inside those …

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My days are mostly routine.Conditioning.Default.Instinct.Mostly.Routines get me through the basics.Wake up.Brush my teeth.Check my phone.Default …

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It’s easy to confusefacts and opinions.It’s easy to forgetthat opinions don’t matter outside my own head.Precious thinking encourages life without …

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I offer grace easily to others.Their mistakes. Their shortcomings. Their stuckness.I call it patience. Understanding. Compassion.Not with myself.I …

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I was told success was linear.Set the goal.Make the plan.Follow the steps.Progress in a straight line.Turns out, theboss doesn’t draw in straight …

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My judgments don’t come out of nowhere.They’re part of something.Part of a story I’ve told myself.About what’s right.What’s good.What’s true.I don’t …

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I say I want new.New perspective.New outcomes.New level.There’s a catch.I have to make space for the new.Otherwise I’m full.Full of assumptions.Full …

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I want to feel ready.Certain.Settled.Like I’ve thought it through.Planned it well.Earned my peace with the risk.That feeling never comes.Not …

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