I tell myself I’m being honest.I believe it.I even feel self-righteous about it.Until later.When something doesn’t add up.When someone reflects …
If I Am Being Honest
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Framed Myself
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I thought I was being honest.Turns out, I was being urgent.Urgent is a frame.I thought I was being clear.Turns out, I was maintaining.Maintaining is a …
The Proof of Progress
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Happiness is not a destination.It’s a byproduct of progress.Said more accuratelyHappiness is the perception of progress.When I think I’m moving …
Evidence vs Interpretation
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Evidence lives outside of me.It’s what happened.What can be seen.What can be measured.Interpretation lives inside of me.It’s what it means.Why it …
Awareness Loops
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... I thought I was making progress.Felt like momentum.Looked like commitment.I called it growth.It was a loop.I couldn’t see the pattern.That’s a …
How Trust Begins
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... I used to think trust was the resultof being right.Having the answer.Making the case.Winning the argument.It doesn’t.Trust doesn’t begin with …
It’s Just Business
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... That’s what we saywhen we can't align decision and feeling.We decide on an outcome.That makes it the right outcome.One problem.The feelings …
When I Don’t Match What’s Needed
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I know what’s required.I know what’s needed.I can even feel it.I still don’t always match it.I’m willing, but I’m human.Sometimes, being humanmeans …
Better Questions
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I used to think clarity came from answers.From figuring it out.From solving the right problem.Answers to move on.I asked sharp questions.Productive …
Discomfort In Awareness
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I thought awareness would help me feel better.More grounded.More in control.It didn’t.I called it progress.It was exposure.Awareness itself isn’t …
The Picture and The Frame
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I thought I was seeing clearly.Looking at the full picture.I was reacting to the frame.The picture is what is.The frame is how I see it.What’s in …
How To and Why
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I wanted clear instructions.Step-by-step.Show me the path.Tell me how to win.I called it preparation.It was avoidance.The loop of looking for HOW TO …